“I understand that, but that’s only a point of reference.” – a sentence that my therapist must say at least twice every time I meet her.
Reference points might as well be called assumptions.
I assume a lot about people; mostly how they’ll react in a situation. Sometimes, I’m right. Very often, I’m wrong.
It is very easy to assume how a person will react to something based on past similar experiences.
The problem with assumptions is that they might hold you back or persuade you to do or say something.
It also means that when you have a positive reference point and you experience something negative from that person it hurts rather a lot.