So an awful lot of people have been talking about Jason Collins and his recent coming out. Some people have been in support of it whilst some have not.
One post compared him and a soldier and said that the soldier is a hero and that Jason Collins is not. And I understand that; he’s not a hero in the generic sense. He hasn’t saved anyone’s life.
Or has he?
Is there a gay kid in some tiny American town that’s seen the news and thought “If he’s gay and people don’t mind then maybe people won’t mind that I’m gay.” Maybe he’ll put down that razor or those pills and maybe he won’t feel so alone.
I’ve also seen posts where people say he (along with others) shouldn’t feel the need to come out anymore. And I get that. It’d be great if people didn’t assume that everyone is straight and that no-one would be shocked when people came out as gay. But people do assume and people are shocked. And when people are shocked it becomes a taboo and, when it becomes a taboo, people are afraid to come out.
I don’t come out to people because I live differently or because I want attention or special treatment. I come out to people so that I don’t have to awkwardly correct them when they ask if I have a boyfriend and I come out so that I feel like I’m being 100% honest with them. The same way I tell people that my dad’s dead so they don’t ask me what I’m doing for him on father’s day and then get angry when they find out that he’s been dead for 16 years.
Basically, I’m glad he’s come out and some people aren’t. End of.